INTRODUCING THE SURVIVOR'S TALKING POINTS® MAKING SENSE OF THE UNTHINKABLE; FINALLY, FRAMEWORK TOOLS FOR SURVIVORS FINDING THIER VOICES.
You shouldn't have to be an attorney to be believed.
You've lived through what most people could never even imagine. Now you're being asked to explain it in a way professionals understand. The Survivor's Talking Points® Strategybooks™ helps you do just that, with structure, confidence and truth.
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You've survived the unimaginable—now it’s time to name it, and frame it into words that advocates can act upon.
In legal, investigative, and advocacy settings, your voice is often the only source of truth available—and how you use it can impact the safety and outcomes for you and your children. The Survivor’s Talking Points® program was built to help you present your experiences with the clarity professionals require. By providing structure, strategic language, and guided prompts, these tools supports you in delivering information that is competent, consistent, and credible—whether you're working with an attorney, speaking with law enforcement, or standing before a judge.
The Survivor’s Talking Points® Strategy Books are powerful, trauma-informed toolsets created to break through the language barriers that often lead to misunderstanding and minimization. These books are designed to help you clearly describe patterns of intimate partner violence, coercive control and post-separation abuse, so you can articulate what you've experienced—with precision, structure, and clarity.
HERE'S WHAT'S INSIDE:
Each strategy book contains structured pages of writing prompts, reflection cues and pattern recognition tools, all designed to help you organize and detail your experiences, so that you can communicate them clearly to others.
competence
Speak clearly about what happened using terms the system recognizes.
consistency
Present experiences in a way that aligns across settings from court to counseling.
credibility
Structured framework to support truthful, concise and reliable communication.
it's framework
Grounded in the lived experiences of survivors and informed by the predictable behaviors of perpetrators. Each of The Survivor's Talking Points® Strategy Books includes step by step prompts, tips, strategies and more, using The Talking Points Method™ to help you organize significant events in a focused, concise way. It sharpens your voice and supports your ability to be heard—whether in high intensity settings, in counseling, with your attorney, with law enforcement, or in the quiet and deeply personal work of your own healing.
In family court, how you tell your story matters, these tools help you tell it right.
- Clarifies Patterns of Abuse: Helps you document coercive control, emotional manipulation, and other non-physical abuse in a structured format the court can recognize and understand.
- Supports Credible Testimony: Equips you with consistent language and focused details that align with trauma-informed best practices, increasing your credibility in court.
- Prepares You for Legal Communication: Serves as a reference when drafting declarations, affidavits, or preparing for interviews with attorneys, guardians ad litem, or custody evaluators.
- Reduces Emotional Overwhelm: Provides a clear framework to organize your experience so you can speak calmly and confidently—even under pressure.
*These literary tools are not legal advice or a substitute for legal counsel. We encourage you to utilize these books under the guidance of a qualified family law attorney, with DV experience. See full disclaimer below.
Imagine if... clarity wasn’t just possible, but if it was within reach.
What if the fear of judgment, shame or saying the wrong thing didn’t hold you back? What if your story had a structure? What if you could speak about what happened with confidence—no matter who’s listening?
Imagine if...
- ...you could walk into court and know exactly what you need to covey. No scrambling. No second-guessing. Just clarity backed by thoughtful preparation..
- ...you could put the right words to what’s you've endured. Not just emotions—but language that makes sense to judges, attorneys, and advocates.
- ...your story became a record no one could ignore. A clear and credible summary of what happened, written in your own words.
- ...you felt calm, focused, and composed—even in high-pressure moments. With a framework to guide you, overwhelm doesn’t get the final say.
- ...you didn’t have to start from scratch.
You had structure. You had support. You had a foundation built upon the lived experiences of hundreds of women who have been there.
What you say and how you say it,
can shape the outcome.
When you're involved in family court, the ability to speak clearly, concisely, and credibly can make all the difference. The Survivor’s Talking Points® is a structured tool designed to help you document your experience with the clarity that the legal system demands. Whether you're drafting a declaration, preparing for a custody hearing, or working with an attorney on divorce or child custody, in a case where intimate partner violence has occurred,, this resource gives you the language and structure needed to make you comfortable with present the truth of what has transpired in confident, reassured, trauma-informed manner.
In most family court cases, whether you're pursuing custody, a protective order, or a final divorce decree, you often get only one chance to explain what has happened to you and your children. One opportunity to clearly articulate the events and the impact they’ve had. That moment matters. And with so much at stake, your ability to describe what’s relevant to your case—clearly, calmly, and confidently—can make all the difference.
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Clarity from your client, means credibility in the courtroom.
The Survivor’s Talking Points® Strategy Books provide attorneys with a structured, survivor-informed tool that streamlines one of the most complex challenges in family law: understanding and articulating the lived experience of post-separation abuse. Survivors are often overwhelmed, emotionally fatigued, and unsure of how to organize their history in a way that is legally relevant. This resource helps clients clarify the timeline, highlight patterns of coercive control, and identify specific incidents with language that aligns with legal strategy—making your job easier, more efficient, and more informed.
The right language can turn lived experience into legal evidence.
For attorneys preparing affidavits, protective order requests, custody filings, or trial strategy, this tool offers a clear advantage. The guided prompts reduce emotional overwhelm while increasing consistency, helping survivors present credible, case-relevant information in a brief, organized manner. With your client better equipped to focus on facts and articulate key points, your filings can reflect greater precision, accuracy, and court-appropriate detail.
Built on years of direct work with survivors and a deep understanding of the predictable behaviors of abusive partners, The Survivor’s Talking Points® bridges the gap between lived experience and legal necessity. It is not just a tool for healing—it is a tool for preparation, clarity, and credible communication in systems that demand it.
As ALWAYS Kaitlyn comes through with language to limit our compromise and help us, so we can spend our time and energy on protecting our children. Thank you!.
Rhiannon Hansen
Why did I not purchase this sooner? 4.5yrs on from leaving an abusive relationship, I still get stress and anxiety from communicating with the father of our child. He remains intimidating and combative and continually attempts to pull me into conflict. These talking points are exceptional and I already feel like I’ve gained some power back by being able to respond respectfully but with authority. I often got so stressed I wouldn’t be able to respond in a timely manner or would just send off a message that was not well thought out, I think because I still live in flight or fight mode due to ongoing issues. Highly recommend to anyone who has to have written or oral communication with an abuser! Thank you Kaitlyn!
M M Bagrie
This has definitely made me feel empowered. I am on my second year of court battles and the attacks are non stop from the other parent. He has weaponized every little thing I said, even things that don’t make me look bad at all. He flips the script, twists narratives and has used my texts to do that. Now that ends here. I have learned so much from your free content but now this is the cherry on top. Thank you so much
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Listen...... This content was a Godsend this morning. I knew the right words to say after his long drown out message of why he was late 2 hours for drop-off
Cynthia Edwards
- Turn your experience(s) into clear, credible talking points
- Speak in a language the system understands
- Document patterns and risks with structured guidance
- Reduce overwhelm with trauma-informed support
- Builds confidence with survivor-tested methods that have been used successfully
- Anticipate and respond to common legal tactics
The Survivor's Talking Points® E-books provide instant access to tools for documenting abuse patterns, medical needs, and risk factors with clarity and structure. While providing a trauma-informed framework that reduces overwhelm and increases emotional readiness for healing, recovery, preparing for court or custody hearings, and confrontational situations.
The Survivor's Talking Points® Translate lived experience into language the system understands.
the foundation
The Survivor's Talking Points® Strategybook™
is designed for women navigating court, custody, and protective systems. Built upon the principles of The Talking Points Method™, this trauma-informed workbook style strategybook™ focuses on Kaitlyn’s three C’s of communication to help survivors document patterns of abuse (seen and unseen), organize their voice and prepare powerful, consistent statements for use in legal, investigative, or advocacy settings.
Whether you’re working with an attorney, preparing for court, or simply trying to make sense of what happened, this tool offers structure, support, and strength every step of the way.
Available in digital and hard copy.
the process
The Talking Points Method™
is a communication guide designed to help you maintain credibility, consistency, and control when interacting with an abusive co-parent. Rooted in The 3 C’s—Credibility, Consistency, and Competence—these carefully crafted Talking Points help limit the perpetrator’s ability to provoke conflict or manipulate the narrative. Use them to respond with clarity, reinforce your child-centered priorities, and avoid being drawn into destructive dynamics—all while preserving your professionalism and peace.
Available in digital and hard copy.
specialty strategy book 2
The Survivor's Talking Points® for Use with Family Law Attorneys
is a readiness tool designed to help you approach legal meetings with clarity and confidence. This question-based guide highlights key concerns common to Protective Moms, equipping you to communicate more effectively and advocate for yourself in attorney relationships. Whether you’re preparing for an initial consultation or seeking to improve an ongoing dynamic with your legal team, this tool helps ensure that your voice -and your priorities- remain at the center of your case.
Available in digital and hard copy.
specialty strategy book 3
The Survivor's Talking Points® for Use With The Perpetrating Father™
is a communication guide designed to help you maintain credibility, consistency, and control when interacting with an abusive co-parent. Rooted in The 3 C’s—Credibility, Consistency, and Competence—these carefully crafted Talking Points help limit the perpetrator’s ability to provoke conflict or manipulate the narrative. Use them to respond with clarity, reinforce your child-centered priorities, and avoid being drawn into destructive dynamics—all while preserving your professionalism and peace.
Available in digital and hard copy.
A WORD FROM KAITLYN:
The Survivor’s Talking Points® Strategybook™ isn’t just a place to write—it’s a proven tool to help you speak clearly, stay credible, and reclaim control of your story.
I created The Survivor’s Talking Points® Strategybooks™ out of necessity—during court battles, in the aftermath of emotional trauma, and through long seasons of working with survivors who have been misunderstood. Like many survivors, I knew I needed to be more “credible,” “calm,” and “clear.” But no one told me how to do that while surviving abuse and trying to protect my child. So I built the method I needed—the method that worked.
The Talking Points Method™ gives survivors a guided way to translate lived experience into a language the system recognizes. It doesn’t water down the truth or strip away your voice—it strengthens it. This workbook is the foundation of the program, with writing prompts, structure, and support designed to help you organize your story into consistent, credible, and actionable communication.
Every piece of this program is grounded in real-world success and supported by current research on coercive control, trauma, and legal credibility. It’s already helped countless women, in 34 countries, move from overwhelmed to prepared—from unheard to persuasive. The tools inside are trauma-informed, court-aware, and survivor-tested.
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